“BE THE WOMAN YOU NEEDED AS A GIRL”… my favourite quote explained
I use this quote a lot. It is even used on the about me page on this website. It is my favourite quote because there is a lot of personal meaning behind it for me.
I realise that at a glance this quote could make it sound like I never had female role models around me growing up and this couldn’t be further from the truth. I never want anybody reading this to think that I never had strong women around me because I did. I was surrounded by plenty of strong women!
My mum is my best friend, she is the best mum I could have ever wished for. She provided me and my brother with everything we ever wanted and gave us an amazing childhood. She supported me through everything with my eating disorder recovery. Then there is my Nanna who has always been a very independent lady who goes holidaying with her friends, has her own hobbies and again she looked after myself and my cousins when we were growing up and our parents had to work and the memories I have from being at her house are some of my favourite. My Grandma brought up 8 children, I watched her get poorly and fight her way back numerous times and I have lovely memories of her and being at her house. All of my mums friends are strong women and again I knew growing up that they would be there for me when I needed them, as were my aunties.
So as you can tell from the above paragraph the quote “Be the woman you needed as a girl.” for me personally, has nothing to do with not having strong women around me. The quote means so much more to me than that.
This quote is a quote I want to live by as it is for 13 year old Lorna. The young Lorna that was struggling with eating disorders and would spend time online trying to find someone who had recovered that I could ask how to get there and who I could look up to, to inspire me to recover as I watched them get their life back. All I wanted as a teenager was to see people who had gone through what I was going through and had got to the other side and there was nobody talking about it. It made me feel very alone and like my disorder was something to be ashamed of which again played into me keeping it a secret for 10 years.
I want to be the woman that I was so desperately trying to find when I was younger. I want to be able to share my story so that anybody who is struggling and is looking for help can find it and hopefully my website can encourage them to seek recovery. If my 13 years of going through the struggles I went through can help even one person choose recovery then I will be so grateful.
I am not ashamed of the things I went through anymore, I wouldn’t be the person I am today if I hadn’t gone through all of those things. I want to to use my struggles in a positive way to help others who are just like I was at 13. When they search google or instagram and find my website/account I hope I can provide them with some help and that maybe I can inspire them to choose recovery.